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Don’t be harsh….but gentle May 1, 2012

Posted by daniel ayad in Behaviour.

Have you ever been screamed at unfairly?

Have you ever been criticised, name called or victimised..?

Or maybe you are doing the screaming, criticising and victimsing….?

It’s important to keep in mind that everybody is human. Don’t suppose that other people are perfect or ideal. Don’t expect too much from them. If others do you wrong, don’t be upset. People are like that: they can be good or bad. Don’t imagine that you are dealing with angels and saints…but with ordinary human beings. It is no good to let their mistakes towards us make us upset .

Sure, you could scream at somebody if they haven’t performed the task exactly how you wanted…but is that really fair? When you were performing a task for the first time how did you go? Did you complete the job perfectly without needing any assistance?

Try hard to remain calm when you are not happy with how something went. Try hard not to reply to anyone while you are angry, but wait until you have calmed yourself down, then finish the conversation with a person. Waiting even for a minute will make a difference.

Christ was ultimately gentle in His dealings with people. He certainly rebuked people, but it was always done in love and politeness “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matt 11: 29). Remember “a gentle answer turns away wrath” (Prov 15:1).

Look at how Christ spoke to the Samaritan woman. Despite her continuous adultery He used gentle words like “husbands” and “the one whom you now have is not yours”.

St Paul the Apostle also spoke gently when he discovered the people of Athens worshipped idols. “Men of Athens, I perceive that in all things you are very religious…” this was quite a nice way of rebuking idolatry.

Try hard to win people over by using gentle words. Do NOT use harsh words. Keep in your mind that you yourself have many faults and supporting each other will go much further than fighting.



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